Dealing with grief is one of the most painful things in life that we can experience. The finality of losing someone (or something) can trigger a range of emotions from anger, anxiety, sadness, and even depression. When dealing with grief, it can feel like you can’t move forward or you don’t know how you’re going to be able to live in a world without the person (or thing) you lost.

Learning how to process the sometimes overwhelming emotions of grief can be helpful. There are many ways to do this. One is through the use of a simple form of…

If you’re struggling with adult ADHD, every day life can (a likely will) present you with various challenges. You may have difficulty managing work and personal relationships, meeting demands at work and at home, as well as taking care of your own health and well-being.

If you’re in need of some tips to help you manage daily life with your ADHD, here are five strategies you can start using today.



If there is one thing we all have in common, it’s that we don’t always agree with one another. Therefore, if there’s one thing many of us could learn, it would be how to end an argument respectfully. Never before has this been more true than it is today.

If we are progressing toward a healthy and meaningful life, then we’ve come to accept that there are times when we must simply respectfully disagree with someone and move forward. Unfortunately it’s becoming increasingly difficult to agree to disagree in today’s divided America.

Television and social media reflect the strain political…

No one is ever prepared for a tragedy or the trauma that can follow. In fact, most of us go through life believing that tragedies happen to other people.

When people do experience a distressing or life-threatening event, such as a car accident, natural disaster, or terrorist attack, they often develop extreme anxiety or PTSD. Many develop ongoing problems with their personal relationships and their own self-esteem.

Everyone deals with trauma in their own way. There is no right or wrong way to respond to a tragic or terrifying event. …

“The spark” is a phrase that’s a used one a lot when it comes to romantic relationships. In fact, you might have felt “the spark” in the beginning of your relationship. Hence, the “honeymoon phase.”

However, like every other fire, “the spark” needs to be kept alive. When you think of intimacy, you probably imagine physical attraction and sexual excitement. However, intimacy is much more than that. It encompasses both physical and emotional connection — and it requires a lot of work.

At the beginning of your relationship, you can’t seem to get enough of your partner. You want to…

When most people think about getting help with addiction, they tend to think of drugs, alcohol, or gambling. But there are many seemingly benign activities that can become an addiction for some people.

For some, watching porn is an activity done once in a while for fun, while others watch for hours every day alone. Some people shop only when they need something. Others spend more than they can afford chasing a feeling that shopping gives them. And for many, the urge to pick up their phone and “check it” is just too powerful.

Whether it’s substances, social media, sex…

If you’re struggling to fall or stay asleep, you’re not alone. Insomnia, the chronic inability to get sufficient sleep, affects millions of Americans every night. According to the Centers For Disease Control & Prevention’s 2014 study, more than a third of Americans aren’t getting enough sleep on a daily basis. I’m sure if they did that study in 2020, it would be much higher!

With a lack of sleep at the root of serious medical conditions like obesity, high blood pressure and heart disease, getting the right amount (and quality) of sleep on a regular basis is crucial to a…

If you’re someone who spends most of the night tossing and turning and checking the time on the clock, you’re definitely not alone. According to the National Institute of Health, close to 20% of Americans suffer from some kind of sleep disorder (insomnia). No wonder so many people are walking around cranky and groggy!

Lack of sleep can take a massive toll on every aspect of life including relationships, focus and concentration and performance at work. Chronic insomnia can even contribute to serious health problems.

While some struggle to fall asleep, others can’t seem to stay asleep and others wake…

Denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance: these are the very well-known 5 stages of grief as suggested by Swiss psychiatrist Elisabeth Kubler-Ross in her 1969 book On Death and Dying.

At the time of the book’s publication, very little instruction was given in medical school on the subject of death and dying. It’s hard to believe that medical schools then (and few today) offer training on guidance for how to deal with something every single person on the face of the earth will deal with at some point in their life: grief.

This is precisely what motivated Kubler-Ross to share…

How long has it been since you checked your Facebook page or instagram account? If you’re like most people, you use social media many times throughout the day. If you’re like many people, you use social media as an escape. And if you’re like many of those people, there’s a good chance it’s ruining your chances of happiness.

While you may think social media is fun (or a must have to stay up to date with friends), studies have suggested that it can take a toll on your emotional state. One study by researchers at the University of Missouri focused…

James Killian, LPC

Principal Therapist & Owner at Arcadian Counseling in Woodbridge, CT.

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